Day 1: Making Something Happen

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Today is Day 1. The beginning. The starting point.




I have committed to going on a journey of self-discovery. I have invited my husband to join me. We'll see what happens!

This year is a special one for me ... I am going to celebrate a "big birthday"! And because my birthday is on June 30th, my birthday always marks the half-way point of the calendar year. We close out the first 6 months of the year and look ahead to the next 6 months.

So, on June 30th of this year, I will turn 50. (Fifty!). That means that I will spend half of this year in my 40's and half of this year in my 50's. I am feeling like the stakes are high. They aren't necessarily, but I can use this milestone birthday as a catalyst for change.

My 19-year-old daughter recently shared her new mantra with me: Nothing happens if you do nothing.  (My own personal mantra: "Things change when you change things.") Same idea. Basically.

The premise is that unless you do something (the alternative is to do nothing) then nothing will happen. And since I want a few things to happen ... and I could stand a few things to change ... I am going to go on this journey of self-discovery to see what I uncover. I am committed to reconnecting with myself not necessarily "re-inventing" myself. I am using a lot of the framework and resources from BetterUp.com to help me with this journey. My first step is to commit to journaling 10 minutes a day and walking 20 minutes a day. Baby steps. 

Here goes nothing! (Or actually ... here goes something!) 

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